Daily Entries · writing

January 5, 2018

One of my new years resolution is for me to write more than what I normally do. I don’t expect myself to write everyday but I want to start writing more. It’s day 5 of 2018 and I am barely getting around to writing a new blog post… BUT I have a good excuse. I barely got home from Mexico yesterday and I no access to wi-fi. I took notes of different ideas that came to my mind of posts that I want to write about. My trip to Mexico was such an amazing experience and there is so much that I want to talk about. THERE’S A LOT, so I was thinking of making different chapters for every topic that comes to mind. Here are some blog post ideas I have in mind:

1. My Trip To Mexico

1. The Food   2. The Culture   3. Transportation  4. Money   5. Family Problems

6. Our haunted house    7. Coming from the USA/Ungratefulness  8. Photos

9. My anxiety

2. New Years resolutions

3. Body Positivity (need more models)

It’s a new year, which is like a new clean sheet of paper. Entering the new year with a 15 day streak of being anxiety free. I will be talking about my anxiety in my Mexico blog post but I am so happy and thankful to have had been able to escape from my anxiety while I was on vacation.

This blog post is short but I feel that putting this out there will motivate me to start writing more. Sort of like an outline and ideas that I have. I have never been a big fan of “starting” things, but I enjoy doing them once I am in it. I hope that made sense.


Happy New Year everyone! I hope this year is filled with blessings and happiness for everyone! Let’s see what this year has in store for all of us.

There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.

– Proverbs 23:18

Daily Entries · writing

November 24, 2017

I feel like I haven’t done an actual daily blog post in a such a long time. I am not quite sure why, but I do at the same time. I love to write but I just hate the “starting”. I hope I can start a new “streak” of posting consistently… I HOPE.


I went Black Friday shopping and I didn’t know how much social anxiety I had until yesterday. Well actually I went “Black Thursday” shopping and then “Black Friday shopping. I purchased my very first adidas clothing item that was not from a thrift store or previously owned. That was exciting and sort of a regrettable feeling, because I spent $60 on 3 jackets. I mean don’t get me wrong that is a great deal, but I feel like it is all a scam. I have never been the type of girl to spend a lot of money clothes due to how often I grow out of styles. One day i’ll be into the “sporty” look and the next minute i’ll be over it. I prefer to shop at thrift stores where I can enhance clothing items without getting that feeling of regret. Growing up, I learned to adapt to a different life style than most people. We would only purchase clothes from thrift stores and I was okay with it. My brother on the other hand buys $200 shoes about once a month, which I can write a whole blog post about it. I don’t get it. I truly don’t. If you are reading this and you yourself buy $200 shoes, please give me a reason as to why you do it. It takes me about a good 1 hour to convince myself to buy $39 shoes from Vans. It’s not because I am cheap, but because I grew up being dressed with clothes from the thrift store that it’s crazy for me to go buy something at full price when I can get it almost 80% off somewhere else. I don’t know, call me crazy.

Sorry for that small rant.

This year’s thanksgiving was by far not the best one. I have gotten so used to celebrating it with my small little family at home. My mother, father, sister, brother, and I. This year we went to my mom’s friends house who had a few people over and we celebrated it there. They were all strangers and I was sort of just sitting there on my phone. Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely thankful that I was able to receive a full FULL FULL FULL  course meal, but I wish my sister would’ve visited.

Anyways, I am so thankful for this year. This has been by far the worst year of my 19 years of life, but I am beyond grateful for it. I think that God put this experience in my path as a way to give me a wake up call. I was doing a lot of things solely for the money. I wanted to spoil everyone as well as make everyone happy. I was putting everyone before me. I was working my ass off and going to school, yet rewarding other people when I should have been patting myself on the back. I didn’t realize how good I had it, until now. I was living in San Francisco, going to a CSU, working a job that paid $14.25 an hour, making a few friends, and spending time hiking and at the beach. I was always on the move, stressed out, breaking out in huge amount of acne, not eating, cleaning for my HORRIBLE roommates, running out of gas in the city, etc. I am a sole believer that things happen for a reason. I took a path that wasn’t the correct one for me. It wasn’t faith for me to attend San Francisco State University. It wasn’t faith for me to be in Lambda Theta Nu. It wasn’t faith for me to make a solid friendship out there. It wasn’t faith for me to be happy. I was in a toxic relationship with San Francisco. It wasn’t for me. FUCK, I look back on my journey in the city and I ask myself, “How did you manage?”. Regardless of how much I hate anxiety, I am really grateful that it removed me from the city. I am also so thankful for Kelly from the fire station in Berkeley {Click Here to read blog post}.


As it gets closer to Christmas my anxiety gets heightened by the fear of traveling to Mexico. I haven’t been in over 8 years and my emotions are all over the place. A part of me is so happy and excited, but I am also afraid. I am scared of being in another country where I don’t know if I will be able to get help if I need it. My mother will unfortunately not be there the first couple of days while we are out there which is mainly why I am so afraid. You see, my father loves me a lot but he doesn’t quite understand anxiety. My mother having experience and being on medication herself, knows anxiety inside and out. She knows how to calm me down. Her presence is definitely quite calming and relaxing to be around. I’ve been speaking to my therapist of how much I can’t wait for the day to come but at the same time i’m trying to run away from it. Oblivion scares me. Will I get an anxiety while I am out there? Will I be cured? Will I be okay? Will I be in and out of the hospital over there? I hate the not knowing.

I am having a 30% Black Friday Sale right now on my Etsy shop. It ends on Saturday at 11:59pm so make sure to pick something up if you are interested! {Click Here to Shop}. To anyone who has made a purchase, I am very thankful for your kindness, support, and appreciation for my listings.

I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving as well as a good Black Friday… whatever that means, HA. Don’t forget to set your scale back 10 pounds this week 😉

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

– Philippians 4:6

anxiety · writing


I am really afraid of myself right now. The girl that is looking back in that mirror… I don’t know her. I don’t want to know her. I don’t want to accept the fact that, that girl is me. My mental health has deteriorated and so has my want to live. I am nothing but another problem taking up room in this overpopulated planet. I’m not suicidal, so please do not tell me I am. I simply do not want to be in this body or this life.

None of this will make sense unless I explain myself.

I unlocked my phone and clicked on the Notes app to write:

The amount of craving for suicide has filled every ounce of my body like my car gets filled at a gas station. I am ready to disappear into the silence of the night. I am ready for their to no longer be a piece of me known. I am ready to not exist anymore.

I came home and went directly into the bathroom. Showering has this impact on my emotions and it is a location where I can just let everything that I am feeling go. I turned on the shower and the bathroom suddenly became a Sauna. I unclothed myself and felt nothing but a cold breeze along my body. I lost it. The tears began to camoflauge into the water running down my face. I collapsed. Full force. I grabbed my knees and comforted myself. “This too shall pass, Irma”… “God please give me strength”… I repeated these phrases to myself hoping for a miracle or two.

I didn’t end my life but I ended my 822 self-harm streak. I watched as the blood dripped down the drain and how there was no going back after today. The thoughts and anger I felt at myself was at its all time high. It was its own person. I think about it now that I am a lot more calmer and I ask myself why I did it. Was that necessary? After hiding it from my therapist for the past 10 sessions, I am going to have to confess this hidden feeling to her. I am afraid that she will not understand or hear me out. Am I a freak for feeling like this? Is this why I have no friends? Is this why I lost a tooth yesterday morning? What is happening to me…

I sit here on my bed writing this post wondering how life could’ve been without my mental health problems. I trace the cuts on my thigh and think, how is it that i’ve grown in age but decreased in strength?

I stopped taking my anxiety medication. Three days without taking my daily dose of 50mg of Sertraline. I am suppose to be on my second bottle and I still have about 1-2 weeks left of medication from my first bottle. I can’t find myself to take them. I don’t want to take medication anymore. I skip 1-3 days and depression/suicide attack me at full force. It’s funny because before I started taking my anxiety medication I would hear/read that people would kill themselves if they stopped taking it and I would never believe it. How could skipping a dosage make you suicidal? Now I say, how can skipping a dosage NOT make you feel like this? It’s like my body is telling me, “give me my daily dose or i’ll attack your brain.” I wish I could explain my emotions in a better way, rather than saying “suicidal”. I am not suicidal, I just don’t want to feel this anymore. I don’t want to have anxiety or depression anymore. I want to be normal or whatever it is that can get me through a day of being okay.

I should explain myself now.

I went out to eat with my boyfriend, his sister, and my brother. Steves Pizza, my treat. Afterwards we headed to Open Rice Kitchen to get boba, my treat. Had less tan $100 in my bank account and had to pay a $62 pill before 12am, but I also wanted to have fun. I chose them. I chose a moment of happiness over a moment of stress. I wasn’t planning on purchasing any boba, because I was still full from the pizza. I got one, because I knew my boyfriend was going to want some. He hasn’t been working lately, so I know he doesn’t like to trouble me with paying for his stuff. Here’s the thing, I got his back financially and emotionally. I got one for myself to later give to him. When my brother bought the drinks over to us, I wanted to record myself opening the boba. The past 2 times that I have came to this restaurant, I have noticed that it is quite difficult to open the drink. The lid is on their tight so stabbing the straw through is not easy. I decided to do it at full force and just get it over with at once. That was my mistake.

The drink exploded everywhere. Well not everywhere. It all spilled on my boyfriend and I saw the anger overflow his body. I didn’t know what to do but laugh because everyone turned to look at us. Everyone turned to judge me for doing that. He turned to me and very loudly said, “are you serious” and walked out. My brother, his sister, and I were laughing to try and make it seem okay. I didn’t want to laugh anymore. It wasn’t funny. I was never even funny. I couldn’t stop. I was embarrassed, everyone was staring at us. I felt my anxiety slap me across the face. What do I do? Do I get up and walk out? Do I sit there and pretend nothing happened? Why do I do this? Why can I never do anything right? He walked back in a couple of minutes later and he stood their with his fists clenched together. He was angry. Over 4 years of dating him and I know that when he clenches his fists, it means it’s time one of us goes home and gets out of the other persons face. I got up and so did my brother and my boyfriends sister. We started walking to my car. I wanted to take a photo with all the lights but we were seemingly walking away from them at a fast pace. How do I ask for a photo if everyones mad at me? When we got near the car I asked his sister to take a photo of us.

A night turned from this:

To complete silence. It angered me so I began to show my emotions through my driving. I know I shouldn’t have and I regret it. I truly did. If it weren’t for them in the car, I would’ve done a lot worse. Now my brother is angry at me for embarrassing him with my depression and refuses to talk to me. On top of that my father hasn’t spoken to me, because I have been ignoring him. He got drunk the other day and while we were waiting for the churros to be ready he decided to tell me how he felt about my boyfriend. Not only that but he called me words that as his daughter or simply as a human being should never be told. I have put up with a lot but I wasn’t going to let him sit there and speak out of his ass.

I regret this whole day. I regret thinking it was okay for me to take my emotions and anger out on my body. I try to look on the bright side of every situation and after this situation I am ready to talk to my therapist. I have been so afraid to look this women in the face and tell her how I truly feel. She always asks me how I am doing and how the past couple of days have been but a part of me is never truthful. I don’t ever go out and I have nobody to call when my boyfriend and mother are working. I am screwed without those two people. I am a lonely person. I am barely getting by but I am fighting. I know that sometimes my blog posts show nothing by negativity and downhills at times, but shit it’s like trying to climb Mount Everest with 12 inch heels blind. I am learning my weaknesses and my strengths as I go through my days. I guess I should know myself better by now but I don’t. I still cry myself to sleep and get anxiety attacks at fast food drive thru’s. But I guess I am missing the big picture, just like my therapist says. The fact that I am managing to go through every anxiety attack and trying is something to give myself a lot more credit about than what I do.


Irma, I love you. I know that right now you are going through something so ugly. Something that you wouldn’t even wish on your worse enemy. It’s even uglier that you manage to do it by yourself. I don’t think you give your battles enough credit. You wake up every Monday and go to therapy. You get out of bed and you talk to a complete stranger abut your feelings. You are dealing with your feelings now rather than later. You go girl.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255 (Available 24 hours everyday)



 …so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it

– Isaiah 55:11


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